#9 - Timing of Life

I guess there are two ways you can view life as. That perhaps it is an unfortunate/fortunate thing that many wrong/great things are happening at the same time, or... That things are just simply happening. Time is a mystery and so is life. So when these two things are combined, you will get some unexplainable stuff. Perhaps it's just best to take it as life's great timing. And we'll just have to learn to be brave, courageous and mindful to take it one step at a time, and be present in life's great timing.

#8 - Trust The Process

I know how tormenting it is to be put into the unknown. To constantly ask yourself what is going to happen next and what/how things are going to turn out. But I guess the best thing that we can do and ought to do is to just trust the process. And I guess this is a practice of mindfulness. To not think of other things, and simply be here. To remind yourself again what is within your control and what is not.

#7 - The 3 Don'ts In Life

I have a 3 Don'ts in life that I try to train myself to abide to.

1. Don't ask questions that no one knows the answer to
2. Don't tell yourself things that you don't know
3. Don't create things that don't exist.

3 fairly simple instructions that are... Rather difficult to execute.

#6 - Add Some Spirituality

Sometimes I don't consider myself as a religious person. But I do prefer to call myself a spiritual one. I believe spirituality is your ability to accept something that your calculated logic can't comprehend. For example, holding on to things, holding on to a hope. Or when things go in a serendipitous fashion and so on. It's not really good (in my opinion) to live your life like a calculated machine. 

I guess this is when spirituality comes in. You can believe in God, the universe, mother nature or anything. Or you can believe in the great emptiness, or simply just be a spiritual person.

#5 - Be A Realist

Most of my life, I've always considered myself as an optimist. And I dislike pessimists. But as I grow older I realise what a joy it is to become a realist! I suppose being a realist is someone who's rooted in reality. Like the saying goes, the optimist always has the ability to look on the bright side of a problem, while the pessimist always has the ability to find a problem in every solution haha. I guess the realist is someone who reminds both of them what can be done and should be done.

Being a realist is also less tiring. You don't have to constantly hold on to an imaginary hope or illusionary suffering. But boy it is tough to be one. 

Cause your ego confides you to seek comfort in these two!

#4 - Have An Open Mind

One of the best advices I've received is from Ms Joanne Lin, who's my lecturer in SP that taught me immunology. Well she once told us that "When you try new things, go to a new place and so on, keep an open mind". I guess this advice is applicable to life in general. To just keep an open mind and not let your mind judge things before you even do something. After you have experienced things, that's when we should "generate" mental and emotional formations of that experience.

It's been 10 years since I received this advice and it has never left me behind! Thank you Ms Lin.

#3 - Be Mindful

Mindfulness is something I want to achieve in life. I suppose I have learned that there is something greater than happiness. and not feeling sad. It is being mindful. And I strive to be mindful in everything. How I talk, how I act and most importantly, how I think and feel. 

I want to reach that level of mindfulness where nothing can hurt me anymore.